Consult with an attorney. Get as much legal information as possible so you know your rights and what to expect. Do not rely on word of mouth. You need a consultation with a family law attorney you trust.
Don’t forget the financial wounds. In what ways has your divorce wounded you financially? What does that do to you emotionally and how does money impact you emotionally? How do you create a plan to dig yourself out of it?
Our thoughts and feelings don’t make us who we are but our actions do and our actions are informed by our thoughts and feelings. If you want to succeed, you need to be telling yourself you can. Notice the destructive thoughts. What are the themes.