Healing Through Divorce

The next chapter won’t happen to you. It’s up to you to make it happen. Put it into motion.

New traditions, reconceptualizing holidays, on being an imperfect good enough parent and accepting that you can not control how things unfold at the other parent’s house but you can be a safe person for your child to process that stuff with.

Understanding how dating has changed since you were last single. Being realistic about what this looks like and moving slowly. You can’t replace him/her and you don’t want to.

Breaking down the big picture: Taking time to really think through a new financial game plan, professional game plan, personal game plan.

Create a Plan B, Plan C, Plan D. Your hopes and dreams with him are over. What are your hopes and dreams for yourself?

Setting intentions is a powerful force. You will see what you are looking to see. You will pave the path because you know the destination.

Is your picker broken? What to do if you think you choose bad partners and are unsure of your own judgement.

Looking at patterns in relationships. Now consider other relationships. Past romantic relationships, professional relationships, friendships. Are there themes that creep up?

Understanding the negative core beliefs/negative cognitions that made your marriage possible. Unless you’re one of the lucky few who got out at the first sign that something was amiss, you stayed and suffered in your marriage for longer than you would have liked. Why?

Understanding how you got here. Create a roadmap to your dead marriage. Why did you choose him? Why didn’t it work? What were the positives? What made it unbearable? Did you overlook red flags early on? Why? How would you know if you were doing it again?